It’s Sunday evening, the weekend is almost over. You’ve got into bed and your mind starts racing. You might start mentally preparing yourself for the week ahead, or you might start thinking about where you are in life and why you’re not where you want to be yet. I say Sunday evening, because Sunday seems to be a day of reflection (for me anyway). I’ve usually spent the weekend with my boyfriend and family, not having a care in the world, then Sunday evening comes around and it’s back to reality. Whether you haven’t yet got the promotion you’ve been working so hard for, or whether a project you’re working on is taking longer than you’d originally planned, or whether you’re saving for something and it’s taking for-bloody-ever (I can definitely relate to that one). It can be disheartening when we start to focus all of our energy on the things we haven’t yet achieved. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with evaluating where you are compared to where you want to be. If we didn’t do that, we’d still be roaming around in caves wearing cloths over our bits. But the key is to focus on what you have achieved and use this as encouragement, not discouragement.
I thought I’d share some of the things that I personally find useful when I feel I’m at a bit of a stand still…
- Remind yourself of your goals – Sometimes we get caught up in our emotions and forget what we actually set out to do in the first place. Keep your goals realistic. If you’re saving, it’s probably not a good idea to set a goal of saving three quarters of your monthly salary. You want to make your goals challenging but doable.
- Be grateful – When stuff isn’t going as you’d planned, it’s easy to start thinking “why me”. When I sit down and think of all the things that I’m grateful for, it really puts things into perspective for me.
- Don’t be so hard on yourself – I am the worst for being hard on myself. If I don’t get the result I want straight away, I really beat myself up about it. I’ve learnt over the years that not only this completely counterproductive, but it’s just stupid. Good things take time.
- Learn from your mistakes – If something didn’t work for you before, try to come up with a new strategy. “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results” – Einstein. Did I really just quote Einstein in this post? Yes, yes you did Sarah.
- Give yourself a break – Every once in a while, allow yourself some time out. Unless you’re a robot there’s only so much your body can take before you wear yourself out, whether that’s mentally or physically.
- Go outside – This one may sound daft, but I honestly think a nice walk somewhere peaceful, in a park or if you’re lucky enough on the beach, is massively underrated. My head always feel so much clearer afterwards. It’s true what they say people, nature is good for the soul!
- Create a Vision Board – If you’ve ever read the book ‘The Secret’, you’ll have probably heard of the “Law of Attraction”. It’s basically a theory that suggests whatever you put out into the universe, you get back. According to the theory, visualisation plays a key part, as it allows you to maintain focus on your objectives or goals. I guess you can take what you like from these kind of theories, I know not everyone believes in them. I’m also aware not everyone wants a random board displayed in their home, but that’s what Pinterest is for isn’t it?
- Be open to advise/ feedback – Feedback can be scary, because it’s not always what we want to hear. But when it’s coming from someone who has been in your situation and knows what they’re talking about, it can be valuable.
- Don’t listen to negativity – Whereas constructive feedback and genuine advise is beneficial, purely negative comments are not. Some people love to put others down, I’ve witnessed this first hand. Don’t let it get you down. Anyone who tries to put you off your goal is probably unhappy in their own life. ignore the haters and keep doing you!
- Youtube – Youtube is great if you need some motivation/ inspiration, or just want to switch off and watch some girl create actual art with her eyebrows for twenty minutes… seriously, how? TED talks are awesome – they’re short videos where expert speakers discuss topics such as motivation, why we do what we do, creativity, the power of vulnerability.. and loads more!
- Finally – Remember you’re a Bad Ass B**** and you’ve got this!